Yesterday, I had a very interesting talk with Theodore at Snow Lion Meditation Centre http://www.snowlioncanada.com in Toronto. We spoke of various topics however one stood out in particular. It involved judging others. Lately I have witnessed how damaging this can be. Expressing verbally or silently our judgements and expectations of others are harmful both to our own spirit and to those we judge.
When we judge others, the recipient naturally will feel defensive and may bite back with their own judgements. The relationship is on a downward spiral at this point which brings me to a saying that Theodore shared with me: “When you point one finger at another, three are pointed back at you.” The origin of this saying is the observation of our physical structure. Try pointing your index finger at anything and discover your middle, ring and little fingers are pointing right back at you! The idea is to look within at your own weaknesses before you start pointing them out in others. Christ spoke of this in another way: “Why do you point out the splinter in someones eye, when you have a plank in your own.”
In closing, how does judging someone make you feel? Does it make you feel bitter, unhappy and hard? More inner peace and happiness can we reached if we try not to judge. Which would you rather feel?
“There is so much good in the worst of us,
There is so much bad in the best of us
That it ill behooves any of us
To find fault with the rest of us.”